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I think that you should probably get a therapist to talk to. It really will help a lot, and you’ll be able to sort through your feelings and deal with the social anxiety you’re feeling.
As a rape survivor, this is the best thing you can do. You NEED to talk about it. It’s hard at first, but it gets easier and better. I promise!
I totally agree. Talking about it is the only way it’s going to get better, even though talking about it is the hardest thing ever.
If you ever need to talk, anon. I will listen.
A couple of more things about dealing with a rape survivor that I see happen all to much on tumblr. (Not from this post, this was handled well.)
1.) We have to respect how they choose to go through their recovery process. We encourage therapy, but we also have to step back and let them process the very terrible thing that happened to them on their own time and in their own way.
2.) Never, ever, ever, ever say the words. “I understand.” Even if you are a rape survivor yourself, each situation is different and each person is different. You can never understand how they feel because feelings are individualistic. That being said, the best replies are.the one mentioned above and then these.
"I’m sorry that happened to you, how can I help you? What do you need me to do?" They may not need anything, but if they do… they will tell you. Most of the time they just need you to understand their situation, be cautious of their triggers, and be a friend. So this is the easiest way to help.
Or it’s even acceptable to say.”I’m sorry that happened. I don’t feel comfortable talking to you about this, but I will help you find someone to talk too.” Then proceed to help the find counciling options or support groups. It’s okay to not feel comfortable talking about rape, especially if you have been in a similar situation or you don’t feel qualified to help them with their recovery.
So… just adding some more advice to this post in case someone needs it.